love and relationship.....

Today in my stuffy and cozy  room as I idly lay in my bed, so many different thoughts strike into my mind which I ultimately came to a realization that today's youth have a good number of issues other than the unemployment issue. Of all the issues like substance abuses, gang fights, thefts, unemployment so on and so forth, the most striking issues what I feel is the relationship issues among today's youth.

I undoubtedly reckon that majority of today's youth especially the students are very much obsessed with love and relationship than their future career and parents. Facebook has now become a universal dairy where everyone jots down all kinds of status and information. Mostly I can see relationship status where some being engaged, some being married, some being broken up, some being into new relationship, so on and on. I am pretty sure that there will be only a very few youth who are diligent, futuristic, opportunistic, optimistic and thoughtful and rest will be just a creator of their own setbacks and least bothered about their lives.

Love is deemed to be the precious gift of life and also believe that life devoid of love is meaningless. Yes, I also consent with it partly but if we analyze and contemplate positively then there is a lot to consider of it. Love is a precious gift of god but it can also be venomous if not handled properly. We ought to know how to harness the fruits of love. Only then love will beautify our lives and nourish our hearts. But the paradox is that young lads and laddies are not knowing how to extract the nectar out of the exquisite flower of love. Instead they are getting entrapped and victimized.

Moreover, in today's trendy world with overly fashioned people, those old inspiring adages will no longer hold the truths. Those sacred proverbs are becoming unconvincing and out fashioned. They tend to create their own new versions. If we say, " Educate first, marriage can wait" then they will certainly confute and say just the opposite. Our youth are only concerned about what they can give to their loves and how they can keep their loves happily. And also what their parents and relatives can offer them but never do they think what they can offer their parents.

There are many students who got spoiled owing to love and relationship. Some were prodded to abandon their schools, some were prompted to  commit suicides, while some became parents, monks and nuns etc..They just don't realize that love is just a distraction. Therefore, I would like to solemnly urge my friends to firstly focus on education and become self-reliant and thereafter go for love and marriages, anything you feel like doing.

Can this world will ever be serene and harmonious???

Can this world will ever be peaceful and harmonious? Obviously the answer will be a big 'NO'. I too have an enormous misgivings on this subject. How can this world become secure and peaceful place to live in while there are incessant battles both inside and outside the countries, no trust and faith among the people, where people are being deprived of their human rights and values, where people are being exploited in every possible way? I wonder when this world will be free of all such threats. I think dreaming for the perfect world will remain nothing more than a dream itself. In deed an unfulfilled dream.

If merely good things pervade this world without atrocious stuffs coming its way, then a hope of a world turning into a better one would exist in the mind of people. But in actuality nothing turns out the way we expect. Like an old adage saying' where there is light, there is a shadow, where there is love, there is hatred', good is also always followed by bad. While good people out of their concerns about others' well-being and global peace, strive towards the betterment of a world, those black sheep and villains come as a blockage and jeopardize the peace and harmony of both the people and world, thus making the world an insecure place to dwell in.

Not a single day had I passed without seeing a bad news in every news website I visited. Every time I log in to any news websites I always come across heart-touching news like some people being robbed and murdered, some being rapped and murdered, some being kidnapped, where there were bomb blasts, terrorist attacks, vandalism so on and on that I can't even make a list. But the most astonishing, at the same time the most distressing and embarrassing thing is to come across such bad news occurring in a puny country like Bhutan where its size and population is less than even one state of Indian country.

Therefore, I have a strong conviction that until and unless we have a sense of oneness and respect for one another, this world will never become a peaceful place. The world will remain troubled and chaotic as it was hitherto. So, it would be our forlorn hopes to living in a peaceful world. For a world will never be perfect no matter how hard we endeavor to make it perfect. Nonetheless, we can create our own happiness and smiles despite the world being troublesome and baleful..

Tedious holidays stultify me..

When there is no any holiday we all have a tendency to complain for not having it and also keep on wishing if there was one. But when we get ample of holidays, we don't know how to spend and again complain for being it tedious. No blame on anyone though. This is the nature of not only me, not only you but everyone. And this is exactly how I am feeling and going through such complaining phase at the moment.

During the academic sessions of the year, I wished if it ended so soon so that I would be free from all regular schedules- going to the class in the morning and sit like a statue, and coming back to the room and slumber like a lazy pig, struggling to complete the assignments on time so on and on. But when it came to an end and given enough holidays to relax and relish the leisure times, I feel like going insane not knowing what to do during such tedious holidays. Now I wish if my next semester starts so soon so that I won't become a sluggard.

Though I do many different things like reading books, watching movies, browsing nets, blogging, room cleaning, cooking etc...none of these things seemed to entice me and invade my boredom. I am just getting tired of all these things. Besides my already becoming lazy, chilly winter makes me even lazier and dampens my mood to doing anything of my interest. So, all I do is eat like a monkey and sleep like a pig. Sometimes I feel lazy even to cook food so that time I try to control my hunger though my stomach keeps on making thunderous sound.

Going out to hang around with friends seems to be a good idea but as I mentioned above, harsh winter weather deters from going out of the bed. It makes me bedridden. Nonetheless now the winter vacation is not far to coming to an end. Perhaps after two weeks, my fourth semester will be commenced. So I am hoping all my holiday moods will be vanished soon after I get into a new academic session of the year 2015. Anyway hope you guys are enjoying your vacation unlike me.

adieu to 2104....

without even noticing how the year 2014 had been in my life, it was quite distressing and regretful to know that finally  it has come to an end. But all I could do was remain helpless. For it can't be restarted anew.. I even got to wonder if I had done anything great in 2014 when I realized that my journey of 2014 had reached to the very tip of the end point. At one point, I tried to console my mourning mind that I should not be bothered by whatsoever I might have done in the past(2014) as the new year 2015 brings another new opportunity, new life, new hope, new luck etc...So with those convincing hopes and prayers,I warmly welcomed the new year 2015.

Now that the new year has already turned two days old, I hope with its each passing day will bring us a smile on our faces, good luck and success in our lives and peace and harmony in the world. With this, I also want to grasp an opportunity to thank those people, especially my friends and relatives for their unwavering love and care, help and supports and for being the best for me. I shall not forget a single good thing you all had done to me and also hope that you all will be doing the same in this new year 2015.

But to those  who I may have wronged, I cross my fingers and knell down before you all, and beg for your forgiveness with the pledges never to repeat again. We might have been both good and bad on each other, we might have exchanged both smiles and frowning at times but lets forget those bitter moments of our lives and let it be taken by the year 2014 along with it and keep with us only those worth-keeping. I also do hope and pray for the things to turn out the way to our expectations in this new year.

Finally, I want to share with you my friends my resolution of the new year 2015. I don't have many resolutions like others may have. But I do have about three new year resolutions. Here they are:

1. To realize the mistakes of 2014 and to correct them all, and never to repeat again.
2. To live in austerity and
3. To be gracious.

So, I am hoping that god will bless me in accomplishing my resolutions without any obstructions..
I herewith bid farewell to 2014 and welcome 2015. Wish you all a happy new year 2015...till then take care and be good...

Travelling is more than just riding on the bus......

Lotus Temple

Taj Mahal

"People who don't travel cannot have a global view, all they see is what is in front of them. Those people cannot accept new things because all they know is where they live," Martin Yan quoted. And this is what I also believe to be true because as we travel around the different places we come to see different views of the universe and we also come across various kinds of people and their lifestyles and cultures. So let me share my experience of a 5 day trip to Delhi.

Though I was bit scared of getting car sickness, I reluctantly consented to join few of my colleagues on trip to Delhi after our exam because I didn't want to be the black sheep among the friends. As we all agreed with the decision, we started our journey on 22nd December to Delhi. Our main purpose of the journey was to visit Taj Mahal, Lotus temple and the Indian Gate. After our arrival in Delhi, we settled for a few days at Tibetan Colony renting a hotel. Our stay there at Tibetan Colony gave us a feeling of being in our own country Bhutan since Tibetan people are more or less similar to Bhutanese race and share similar cultures and religion.

But as we step out of that place and go around, we could see beggars and homeless people in a worse condition, worse than the animals I can say. Some beggars were hand-less, some were leg-less, some were cloth-less, so on and on that I can't explain in words. I even saw a few people sleeping on the ground and around them were waste materials, dogs, monkeys and all. Moreover, they were with only a very thin cloth piece in such a harsh winter season. Can we survive in such condition if we were one of them? This question has hit my mind as soon as I saw such pathetic people. Likewise I saw so many people in such animal-like situation and we can't even look at the faces of some people. What I realized upon seeing such people was that the Indian government has got lot to do to enhance the livelihood of their people.

Indian people are cunning, deceitful, lairs and pesky. These were what I learnt from my trip to Taj Mahal, Lotus Temple and Indian Gate. Shopkeepers on seeing our new faces increase the rates of  stuffs. Drivers had cheated us many times. We even had to quarrel with some drivers and shop keepers when we knew that they were deceiving us. And on our way to Tag Mahal, one man entered into our bus and proclaimed himself as our guide without prior information from the agent. He was speaking so many things in Hindi and we barely got what he was speaking. After sometime, he began to collect money from us. 10 rupees each from Indian passengers and 20 each from us as we were foreigners. Afterwards that man disappeared without our notice and another man replaced him. That new man also started to speak ceaselessly in Hindi. But luckily that man didn't collect money from us. So, I thought that is how they make money simply by lying and cheating people.

Although we had been cheated and lied for several times, we are satisfied and elated by reaching Taj Mahal which has been our dream for so long. Moreover, it was a new experience and new knowledge for me and for my friends too. We shared both success and failure, happiness and sorrow and smile and frowning. Above all, travelling is window to the outside world.

we are the architects of our own lives.....

We are the architects of our own lives. We need not hire neither a professional architect nor a proficient mason to build our lives. For, none of them could shape our lives the way we wanted but except ourselves. We, ourselves can mold our lives in any ways we want it to be like. Though there are some determinants of our lives but they play only minor roles in our lives. The real and powerful determinant is our own mind which is in deed a king of our physical bodies. So, it is entirely in our hands as how to lead our lives-in better way or in worse way.

Yes, there are also some important factors which I would say external factors like love and care, career counselling, compassion, elderly advice etc...which affect one's life and direct to the right track but if our mind is non-reactive to any of these determinants and if we be obstinate then we will remain at our normal position only. Therefore, everything has to be dealt with our mind. But I don't mean that we have to totally give ourselves to mind and let mind drive our lives. No. we should not entrust everything on mind because mind is good master as well as a bad master. If we let our mind rule ourselves then it might even put us in jail sometimes. Mind is so dangerous at times. So, it is awfully essential to curb our mind and make it to function in a meaningful way.

In our life time, some people will come as blessing and some as a curse. We may encounter people of various kinds. Some may aid us in climbing the ladder of success while some may pull us down from getting to the top ladder of success. But let it be. We should be the person we were before. Their curses and supports should not be the sole reasons for our accomplishments and failures because as I mentioned at the beginning we are the architects of our own lives. Nobody can bring a total change in our lives though others can bring some tweaks in our lives. Failure and success are like two sides of one coin. For they always go hand in hand. In deed, failure is a stepping stone toward success. The author,Jack Canfield has rightly quoted," Don't worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don't even try".

" Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go,no one else", Les Brown(author) said. As rightly quoted by Mr. Les Brown, it solely depends on oneself on how to lead one's life. There is no any impossible thing in this world. Everything is possible if we really endeavour to do. If we think we can do, we can and if we think we can't then we can't. This is how possible turns into impossible when we don't even dare to give a try. If we fail without even trying it once, we will regret later and get disheartened but if we fail after try then we will not regret and have a sense of satisfaction as we had tried once. So I would like urge all my friends to be the good architect of one's life and build a life beautifully and meaningfully.

An ideal friend..

 William Shakespeare has rightly said,"All that glitters are not gold" So are our friends. Friends are many but not all friends are ideal/true friends.  It will be a great fib if someone professes that he/she can live a life without friend/friends because friends are indispensable in our lives. we need friends in every journey of our lives. But as I have mentioned above, all friends are not ideal, we should be selective in choosing friends as friends are of many types. As our life  is an endless journey, we are bound to come across any kind of people. Sometimes we may encounter with good people and sometimes with bad people. But we can't be sure of their goodness and badness at the first meeting because people are like a mango fruit.

When I say people are like a mango fruit, I don't mean to say people are as sweet as the taste of a mango fruit. No!..I have just exemplified with a mango fruit because it is said that it is really difficult to know whether a mango is ripen or not. Some mangoes may seem to be ripen from exterior  but inside it won't be ripen. Some mangoes would be ripen from both outside and inside and some mangoes may seem to be unripened from outside but inside it would be ripen. Like wise some people may be good from outside but bad inside. Some may seem to be bad from outside but may be good inside and some may be bad from both outside and inside. So we can't judge the book by it's cover. We will only know by its content how the book is.

So  how can we define an ideal friend?, I know we all may have our own perceptions and concept of an ideal friend. But for me, an ideal friend is simply a true friend. An ideal friend is one who walks in when rest of the world walks out and stays with us in all times our our lives. A friend who does what we do and who nods when we nod is not an ideal friend. An ideal friend is the one who witnesses while we are doing and guides us and corrects us when we are doing wrong doings. 

An ideal friend is the one who is honest, flexible, friendly, optimistic, reliable, loyal, generous and sincere. An ideal friend will not look into our family background, rank or status. He/she will simply love us for what we are and how we are without taking into considerations all those aforementioned factors. An ideal friend will also reveal all our goodness and badness without keeping it stifled. Hence, an ideal friend is a true mirror of our lives. He will tell us when our face is dingy. An ideal friend will never deprecate whatever we do, rather he will exalt our efforts and encourage us to keep doing. An ideal friend will never break our trust and betray us. But an ideal friend is hard to get in reality.  

So lastly, but not the least, one true friend is worth a thousand relatives.