life is not as easy as we think....

Nobody's life is easy and it will never be. Even the Buddha's life was tough and tiring. Nothing happens by miracle. The wish- fulfilling tree(pag-sam jen-shing) is no longer in the world. It has become a legend now. We can't just bum around anticipating for something miracle to happen in our lives. We always trust in god and believe that god will do everything for us. But we never realize that god helps those who help themselves. If we long to have what others have and if we want to accomplish what others have accomplished, then we have to do on our on. We have to start climbing up the ladder of success. We have to be determined, optimistic,diligent and enthusiastic as to achieve our dreams and desires.  Food will never come to us when we are famished. We have to go for it. Likewise, success will never be ours if we just keep watching others doing great things and succeeding satisfyingly and keep praying for god to play miracle on us.


Thinking of being a parasite will be the worst thing and disgraceful firstly on ourselves, secondly on our families and relatives and then on the community and the nation. Although we have to rely on our families and friends in times of need for quite sometimes, we can't be dependent on them till the end. We have to make our own livings and it entirely depends on ourselves how we are going to live our lives. No one can remold the way of our lives except by ourselves. So never take life easy. Try to make something out of our lives. Do whatever is good and our lives will be good naturally. Poverty waits at the gates of idleness. So never be a lazy bum. Always try to do something meaningful.

There are some people who take their lives so easy. They stay bother-less and carefree. They tend to forget the preciousness of life. But it is certain that they will realize their own mistakes. That time it will be too late to go  back to those gone away days to start meaningful life and it is impossible either. All they can do is stay in compunction and the words like 'I should have done', If I would have done' will keep their minds preoccupied and even make them shed tears. So, do what we can do and prepare for the better life while we are both mentally and physically sound instead of staying idle and dull. Don't just go on dreaming so many things without doing anything. Building castle in the air is of no use. It is merely a wastage of time.

Don't just wait things to happen. Instead, make things happen for us. Nobody is incapable of doing things. All are equally capable of doing anything. But the thing is everyone doesn't work equally. That's why we are not equally successful. Nonetheless, keep doing things and success and luck will automatically come our way. God is always there to exalt our doings and reward accordingly.
Slumber when it is time to sleep, eat when it is time to eat and play when it is time to play. Whatever we do, we should do according to the timing. If we are punctual, everything will go smoothly.
So always work hard and never take life easy. Life is neither a bed of roses nor a  child's play. nothing will happen magically.

“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown

Diwali celebration in India

I got distracted from doing my tasks by the sounds of people hooting, by the blasting of musics to the peak volume, by the bursting sound of firecrackers etc..My mind was entirely disturbed and my mood of doing chores got unpleasantly restless by the noisy ambiance and could not do anything. Knowing that it would be just a sort of self-punishment by doing things in such a restless mood, I resolved to going out for a short stroll with my friends. As if anticipated, my two chums both named karma were kind enough to consent to my suggestion. In other words they two are acquiescent and gullible friends I have.

Without much preparation on ourselves, we hurried out of the room just taking some amount of buck with us. As soon as we came out of the room, we felt slightly different from the other days and also we could see the atmosphere was not the same as before. Every household, every shop, and every street was brightly illuminated by the varying colors of lights and amazingly decorated. Besides we could also hear a loud sounds of something bursting from every direction. That very bomb-blast-like sound led me to the world of imagination where I imagined myself at the war place. From that I realized that those people who are dwelling at war places must be undoubtedly suffering from noise pollution.

Though the Diwali festival was quite irritating and resenting for non-celebrators, it seemed that it was one of the most important festivals for the Indians. We could see them celebrating in their own ways with much value and enthusiasm. I could also see those shopkeepers at the peak of blissfulness from which I drew conclusion that it must be one of the profitable days for them as they receive a number of customers and we had to even stay in line as if we were going to receive blessings from the great saint. We could also see some smiles on their faces when we wished them simply a 'happy diwali..Likewise there seem to have so many festivals in India too like we have in our country Bhutan.

So, I thought I had been lucky enough to have received  an opportunity to study abroad as I come to learn many new things and get myself exposed to outside world. I came to understand the cultures and lifestyles of other people rather than our own country land. So, I feel that it is essential to move out of one's abode and explore the other world for better knowledge, for better experience and for better ideas etc.....With this, On behalf of all non-celebrators and on my on behalf, I sincerely wish our Indian families' A very Happy Diwali'.


                                        Thank you.

Fib for good....

                                                                                                                                                                    I cannot claim that I am not a liar or I never lie. I cannot either say he/she is a liar. As far as I know everyone of us are all liars. Even the eminent persons also lie occasionally. But there are varieties of fibs and fibbers. Some lies are good, some are awful. Some are helpful while other lies are destructive and deceptive.  Some people fib to escape from the bitter situations and also to deceive others while some lie as to bring some positive changes in the minds and behavior of others. Likewise people lie in their own ways.

It is also said that it is a big sin to tell lies especially to our parents and teachers. So, thinking of it, makes me fearful and keeps me in the state of hesitation because I never tell my parents the truth. Not telling the truth is also a
lie. So, I am a good liar in deed. My parents used to ask me, " Are you in sound health?'," Are you studying hard?', " Is everything going fine with you down there?' so on and so forth. But I always used to say them that I am good and studying well and that everything is going as expected though in reality I barely study and face some problems. Just recently my mummy and one of my brothers were asking about my result and I told them it was good though I am failed in one subject. I didn't share with them of my failure deliberately. But it doesn't mean that I was scared of getting scolded by them or getting beaten up by them. I am pretty sure my parents would never do such thing to me.

Well, you may think that I am a bad son to my parents. But I can argue that I am not. Whatever lies I tell my parents I tell with the good intentions. I just don't want to perturb them unnecessarily. I don't want to let them down. I don't want them to have worries over me. I want them to be happy always. That's why I never tell the truth to my parents. Had I told them that I had failed in one subject then surely they would have undergone great depression and started worrying about me because I had been doing good in studies since my schooling. Moreover, I am their white-hope and if I can't reach up-to their expectation then it would give them an unbearable pain. So, I don't want my parents to suffer because of me. That is why I always keep on concealing the truth from my parents and relatives. So, I think that lying with good intention will be not much sinful but fibbing for bad purposes will be a great sinful.

"Liars need good memories"
                                         

sometimes try to learn more than what we know....

I wanted to ask the cost of things which I wanted to purchase. I wanted to ask if there are stuffs available of my like. I wanted to know what they were talking about. But I was left like an oaf among the strangers. I could not express what I had to express out.It even drag me back to infancy when I had to pinpoint at the things like small kids do at whatever things their eyes come across. I even felt insulted and embarrassed as well when I saw some people mocking at us. But later I realized that it was a lesson for me-the lesson that I should learn and should have learned other languages other than our own language.

Well, one day, I accompanied by my friend karma, went out to do some shopping at nearby street shops here in India.We had shopped around for almost an hour and finally my sight was attracted by one of the beautiful shirts. It was  hung quite a high beyond my reach. So we dashed towards that shop to buy that shirt. If it was within my reach I could have taken it from its place but since it was beyond my reach I had to ask the shopkeeper to take it out. But I didn't know the name of colors in their language and like a small kid I simply pinpointed at the shirt. Since the shirt which I liked was at the second row, the shopkeeper didn't see and to explain him further, I didn't know Hindi. So I was left with no other alternatives than to leave my lovely shirt and headed miserably to other shops. As we move out of that shop I  heard few of the sale-boys murmuring something but I didn't understand what they were uttering. It just kept me in the thought of what they could have talked about us- good or bad. I just said 'let it be to myself' to relieve myself.

So, all I can say from my own experience is that it is extremely vital to learn other languages apart from our own languages. Life seems incomplete and tough without having good knowledge of other languages. It is really difficult to cope up with the people from various cultural and linguistic backgrounds. We can be easily fooled, easily deceived  if we don't know their languages and just vice versa.We would also feel dominated. Like, sticking to one specific diet deteriorates our health, sticking to one's own language makes our life dull and meaningless. It jeopardizes the beauty of our life.

I often feel that knowing different languages is the most indispensable thing and treasure of our life. Without good knowledge of other languages, we are just like deaf and dumb. We would be always in troubles. We can't accomplish our desires and wishes. So I urge you to learn few other languages. Those who have been so dedicated to one's own language and didn't bother to learn other languages like me, please commence learning few other languages with zeal and zest. It will make a big difference in your life. We may have to deal with the people from different sections of the world at any time. So we have to be in a position to deal with them and the only way we can do is by learning few other languages.  We are never too old to learn.....


                                  Thank you....

we ought to be a real human being.....

As far as I know, there are merely two main characteristics that distinguish human beings from animals though we all are sentient beings from the religious perspectives. Body structures and thinking power are the two things of distinction between humans and animals. Humans have straight body structures albeit there are a very few exceptional cases and animals have crooked body structures. While humans have high thinking power, animals have a very least or low thinking power. This is asper my knowledge but I am sure, you all may have different perceptions on it.

This is one of the women who was died in the festival stampede recently

                           

So there is no point of saying shameless or disloyal when we see an ox climbing onto his mother or sisters and doing shameful things because they lack thinking power and they don't have sense of embarrassment. But it would be a bitter embarrassment and insult on our part when a grandfather rapes his granddaughters, when an uncle rapes his niece, when a brother rapes his sister and when a group of boys rape a girl. Actually these awful things are expected from animals but it is quite depressing to know that humans are taking the place of animals especially in today's world. 

When animals kill and take each other's fleshes and bloods, don't view them cruel or devilish, they are not. It is just their way of living. But when a man takes a life of another man, when a gang of boys thrash a boy to the death, when a man is roped and thrown into a river and over the cliff and when humans slaughter the animals for commercial purposes and own consumption, they can be called a true devils, a human devils indeed. We are bestowed with the  thinking power by the gods but we fail to make use of it. Humans are becoming more aggressive than the animals, greedier than the animals and cruel than the animals. Sometimes I wish if a god could bestow thinking power to the animals instead of human beings so that human beings would look upon them as an example.

Sometimes I wonder what could be the wrong with today's people. But it is obvious that something is missing from us. At times we are becoming oblivious of what we are doing. Sometimes I feel like there is need to remind our people the basic functions of five senses because it seems that people are forgetting the functions of not only the five senses but also of the other parts of body. Mouth is for eating and talking,not for hurting others or biting others. Nose is for breathing, not for sniffling drugs like marijuana. ears are for listening good things, not for listening to rumors or gossips. Eyes are for seeing and looking what lies ahead and behind us, not for looking at others' behaviors. Hands are for doing works, not for stealing others' properties and stabbing others. Legs are for walking not for stamping onto the other's bodies or like that. So it is quite sad to hear that a good number of people have been killed in the stampede during durresa festival in India. This evidently indicates how negligent people are, about other's well-beings. It is not only in Indian nation where such incidents are happening, I could hear n see the news on such cases happening in other parts of the universe also. Even in our small country like Bhutan I heard the news on the death of the people in the stampede during melam-chen mo.

Only animals will stamp because they don't bother to look what is there in front of them or what is there behind them. Whereas we as a human being ought to be far more better than animals. We should be more conscious and careful. I feel bad inside and at the same time drag me to hesitation when I make comparison between humans and animals. But the very facts of human beings prompt me to do so. And I apologize you all if I am going against the values of human beings. It doesn't mean that I don't venerate human beings. I do if there are something respectable values within the human beings. 
                             
                                   Thanks....

Divorce cases in Bhutan...

It was during my stay at Thimphu with my sister that one summer day while I was staying outside in the cool breeze to chill down the hotness of the summer, my sight was caught by the distressing scene, I should say. I saw a little girl whom I assumed to be of around seven years old holding firmly onto the body of a man in his forties and sobbing bitterly. I wondered why that little girl must be crying because as far as I know, that man didn't thrash her or scold her. I also heard that little lass uttering something but I didn't hear her words vividly. Thereafter, my mind could not let me stay in peace. I was extremely curious to know the reason behind that little gal's cry. It was indeed my foolishness to ask my sister for the reason as if she knows everything but my foolishness wasn't foolishness anymore when she gave me the reason. She explained that her parents got divorced and that man was her father. Upon hearing this, I became so emotional by seeing a little girl suffering because of family break -down. Likewise I have seen so many children under- going agony and depression due to family break -down.

So it is quite distressing to know our country, Bhutan, becoming a hub of divorce cases despite being a Buddhist country where we believe in fidelity and the cause and effect.( Tha-dham tse and lhay judrey).  Divorce cases are one of the most prevalent cases in our country, and  I am sure that more than 50% percent of the cases in the courts across the nation would be on divorce cases. Sometimes I am of view that marriage is for life time isn't holding the truth. Instead marriage is like use-and-throw game. This is what I feel inside. As it is said" when two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers" In a same way, when the parents get divorced, it is the children who suffer in between. I feel that it is as good as calling them orphans without complete family.

There are many school drop outs, there are many drug-addicts, there are many who commit suicide and there are many who are hooligans. And if we ask them why they are like that? and why they are resorting to such inhuman activities??? we will find that one of the reasons would be a family problem albeit there would be some exceptional cases. Family break-down not only keeps their siblings under depression, it also hampers the performance of the kids. It spoils their mood to study hard. I also feel that it is an awful example in the societies. We are directing our young generations to the wrong way.

Despite knowing the divorce case becoming one of the top issues, our media fail to create awareness to the common public. Instead of covering personal stories like land cases, misunderstandings among parties and all, it would be helpful and educating if they could write stories on family- break down so that it will at-least bring some changes on the concerned parents. If they are made aware of its negative consequences then I think it will induce their minds and think for the good of their children, So if each one of us can educate and guide our parents then the divorce cases in our country will be curtailed to the minimum..Lets prevent divorce by educating our parents and live a harmonious life with a complete family.