It was during my stay at Thimphu with my sister that one summer day while I was staying outside in the cool breeze to chill down the hotness of the summer, my sight was caught by the distressing scene, I should say. I saw a little girl whom I assumed to be of around seven years old holding firmly onto the body of a man in his forties and sobbing bitterly. I wondered why that little girl must be crying because as far as I know, that man didn't thrash her or scold her. I also heard that little lass uttering something but I didn't hear her words vividly. Thereafter, my mind could not let me stay in peace. I was extremely curious to know the reason behind that little gal's cry. It was indeed my foolishness to ask my sister for the reason as if she knows everything but my foolishness wasn't foolishness anymore when she gave me the reason. She explained that her parents got divorced and that man was her father. Upon hearing this, I became so emotional by seeing a little girl suffering because of family break -down. Likewise I have seen so many children under- going agony and depression due to family break -down.
So it is quite distressing to know our country, Bhutan, becoming a hub of divorce cases despite being a Buddhist country where we believe in fidelity and the cause and effect.( Tha-dham tse and lhay judrey). Divorce cases are one of the most prevalent cases in our country, and I am sure that more than 50% percent of the cases in the courts across the nation would be on divorce cases. Sometimes I am of view that marriage is for life time isn't holding the truth. Instead marriage is like use-and-throw game. This is what I feel inside. As it is said" when two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers" In a same way, when the parents get divorced, it is the children who suffer in between. I feel that it is as good as calling them orphans without complete family.
There are many school drop outs, there are many drug-addicts, there are many who commit suicide and there are many who are hooligans. And if we ask them why they are like that? and why they are resorting to such inhuman activities??? we will find that one of the reasons would be a family problem albeit there would be some exceptional cases. Family break-down not only keeps their siblings under depression, it also hampers the performance of the kids. It spoils their mood to study hard. I also feel that it is an awful example in the societies. We are directing our young generations to the wrong way.
Despite knowing the divorce case becoming one of the top issues, our media fail to create awareness to the common public. Instead of covering personal stories like land cases, misunderstandings among parties and all, it would be helpful and educating if they could write stories on family- break down so that it will at-least bring some changes on the concerned parents. If they are made aware of its negative consequences then I think it will induce their minds and think for the good of their children, So if each one of us can educate and guide our parents then the divorce cases in our country will be curtailed to the minimum..Lets prevent divorce by educating our parents and live a harmonious life with a complete family.
